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Turning 30

Wow! Has it really been 30 years since I was born? I'm sure to my mother it feels like just yesterday still. I've decided what I really want to do is start a blog and really stick to it. Let's see what this blog looks like by next year. Hopefully, it's not like my last one, and I drop off the face of the earth. 😉

Speaking of my last post... I've still been trying to eat healthier, and I've been going to the gym about once a week. I feel a difference, and it helped me be able to get the top part of the dress tied all the way. That means no alterations for me!!! I've realized that it's really hard to find food without sugar/carbs, so I feel kind of lost in this world of prediabetes. I'm supposed to eat more protein but as I often joke with Bryan I think I might need to be a vegetarian. I couldn't care less about meat. Now don't get me wrong, I enjoy a nice steak but let's face it... It's nearly impossible to make a delicious steak at home. Well unless you're a professional chef.

So back to the getting older topic... Bryan turned 30 on Friday, and he seems to be coping well he said, "It turns out it's just like 29". I don't know if this is just a girl thing, but it kind of scares to me. Getting older sucks, and I feel like my life is just starting and in a way it kind of is.

When I was younger I figured I'd be married and have 2-3 kids by the time I was 27. I don't know where I came up with these numbers I just did. It turns out no matter how planned out you think your life is.... It's not. If I could only go back and tell my 18-year-old self that, it would save a lot of heartache and time. With that said, one of my favorite quotes is, "You may not always end up where you thought you were going, but you will always end up where you were meant to be.". So as it turns out I did end up right where I was supposed to be.

We have 25 days until the wedding and I just want to share at least my side of our love story. :)

I met this amazing kid in middle school. I was too shy to ever talk to him, but he always caught my eye. Fast forward to when I was 18 the same kid added me on Facebook. I was pretty ecstatic to see that and immediately hit "add friend". A short while later I received a message. It turned out he was selling something. It didn't take much to get me to sign up considering I had liked this kid for awhile. We ended up going on a trip with a bunch of his friends that were in the group. It was my first time out of state and I was super nervous around him as it was. If you ask him about that part of the story he would say, "I couldn't figure out why you were so afraid to get in the car, and I just wanted you to get into the car and chill" or something along those lines LOL... I remember at one point on the road trip falling asleep next to him, and I felt so safe in that moment. I didn't know what it was at the time but everything felt right. Eventually, I quit going to those meetings and selling product and we didn't see each other for a long time.

The next time I saw him it was in 2010. I was walking up to the hospital to go in and pay off my medical bills. He stopped in his red mustang and asked me how I was doing. I said fine and that I was looking to pay the business office. He gave me some directions on where I needed to go. Later I found out it was because he was concerned about the baby, and I being out in the cold. I was a single mom, and I was pretty excited this guy had stopped and talked to me.

I had a tumultuous relationship with my ex and we tried off and on to make it work with the baby. We officially ended things in February of 2012. I dated a couple other guys after that time all of which failed epically. I won't dwell on that part, though.

In August of 2015, I was on Plenty of Fish, a dating website, at one point when I pulled up his profile. Some of you probably know it's not the best place to catch fish. I messaged him anyway, and we talked for awhile but nothing really came of it.

So that brings me to May of 2015.... I had recently got out of another relationship and was pretty much done with dating. It was time to focus on just Alex, and I. I was going to try and reconnect with some of my old friends and just be happy and single. Ashley Penner invited me over for a BBQ, and I decided I would go. I was in her kitchen when he walked in. Being my shy self I quickly panicked in my head and tried to play it cool. We talked for awhile, but nothing really came of it. Ashley tried to set me up that night with him and another guy, but I just wasn't really interested in a relationship. I knew I really liked him, and I felt like he was the kind of guy you marry, I didn't want to drag him into my life that felt so chaotic at the time.

I couldn't help myself though when Ashley messaged me a couple weeks later and asked me to go out. I messaged her back and asked who all was with her. It wasn't that I didn't want to hang out it was just I was already at another friends house playing Singstar and chilling in my sweats! The minute Bryan's name popped up on the phone I was like I have to go, guys! I went out to my car and grabbed the new clothes I bought earlier that day, changed from my sweats and the rest is history.

Okay, okay, you're right it wasn't quite that simple but that was the first night I finally felt I caught his attention. Ashley had to help us along the way because he didn't call me after I gave him my number. He feels really bad about that now, he didn't know for sure how long to wait and then he waited too long... So I'll forgive him :) I don't know if you can guess it but this mystery guy was none other than the famous Bryan Hardesty! It was a long road to get to where we are but it was worth the wait. Everything just feels so right when I am with him and next month I get the honor of being his wife!

So is 30 really that bad? No, it sucks getting older, but I have a feeling my 30's are going to be some of the best years of my life!


  1. I love it! Age is just a number; don't let it get you down. I look forward to the next post :-)


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